A Couple Things Every Girl Should Know

There are things that every girl should know in their lives. As humans everyone gets so insecure with themselves that nothing will help that. Girls as well as men should hear everyday how amazing or wonderful they are. Somethings getting heard that they are beautiful is not always helpful, but it does bring our self-esteem up a little bit.
Here are a few things that should help every girl feel good about herself.
1. You are Beautiful
Please never forget this, because no matter what you are truly beautiful.
2. You are Unique
There is no one like one, nor will there ever be anyone like you. You are yourself and wonderfully made and specifically made to be just yourself, embrace it.
3. Be Confident
No one can tear you down unless you let them. If you ignore the haters they won't get to you, as girls we are so insecure but once we embrace our flaws nothing will tear us down just build us up.
4. You are Wonderfully Made
God made you with his own hands out of his own image and he thinks of you as something beautiful so start believing in that as well. You are wonderfully made by something awesome.
5. You are Perfect
Yeah you may have flaws but besides that you are perfect, and someone out there agrees with me. Just accept your flaws and agree that you are perfect.
6. You are Loved
I know this is something a lot of people have trouble hearing, but it is true. You are loved, you are loved by your parents, your family, your teachers, your co-workers, your friends, you are loved. If by the end of the day you still don't think you are loved look to the sky and towards the Heavens and think of this amazing person, God, and know he truly loves you.
7. You are more than Your Flaws
Everyone has flaws, and imperfections that they don't like about themselves. Everything that you hate someone else may love, and all those "flaws" make you who you are. Don't forget that, just embrace it and love your flaws because once you embrace it, it will become your strength.
8. Accept your Mistakes
Mistakes make us human, you are above the mistakes. Mistakes happen they are in the past you can't change it but just accept it and move on. I focus on the mistakes but you shouldn't just realize what happened, understand it and go on.
9. Breathe
This is not necessarily for just girls but for everyone. Breathe, we get so wrapped up we forget to slow down, calm down, enjoy the view and breathe. Just do it. Who cares who's watching breathe.
10. Don't wear make up.
It's okay if you love make up no one is judging you, in fact I congratulate you! I can hardly wake up an hour before class every day to wear make up so congrats, but sometimes it's okay to take it off and show your natural beautiful face. Don't feel judged remember number 1? You're beautiful.
11. Dance!
Please don't be afraid to dance, like ever. I have a problem with this one because I am so insecure that I don't want to dance I don't want people to watch me. But who cares? If you are with your friends or people you trust or even by yourself, don't be ashamed to put music on, or not, and do a dance. In the end it will make you feel good and that's all that matters.
12. You are more than beautiful.
I know many times we want to be called beautiful, because it is much more meaningful than pretty. Don't just stop there, don't let someone compliment you just your face. Let someone call you passionate, or exhilarating, something besides just beautiful. Let them, have them, compliment you on more than just your beauty.
13. It's okay to not be "talented"
Just like dancing it's okay not to be great at. If you love to write, or dance, or sing, or be creative then do it! Who cares if someone can do it better than you, that's them. They are enjoying something they love so you should also! Talent is overrated singing off key or dancing crazy in public is much more awesome.
14. It's okay to be crazy!
Be wild, be crazy. You're only your age once, so live it up. Don't rush to be an adult and have responsibilities just wait and soak up as much craziness as you can. Be loud, outgoing and just have fun. Dye your hair if you want, to purple or to blonde, or to blue. It's okay being crazy because you can be!
15. Dressing like a slob is okay!
If you feel like wearing sweats and a hoodie or big shirt, do it! Do it! You don't always have to wear cute clothes, it's alright to feel comfortable every now and then.
This is your life and nobody can tell you what to do unless you let them. Do what you want and live how you want. Be spontaneous, be cool, be fun, be adventurous, be crazy, be weird, be you!
"Don't change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you."

I went Greek and now I'm a sorority girl

I have been a lot busy lately, the reason being the title. I rushed!! For fellow sisters out there, hello! I am a freshman in college, so the week I moved into the dorm and the start of school was rush week. Can I tell you how crazy it was? Because it was! I was nervous because we walked so much and did so much that I was nervous and kept asking myself "what did you get yourself into?" But anyway let's start from the beginning.
So let's start with how shy I am. VERY. I was at orientation and my mom forced me to stop at every organization and talk and put my name down. I of course did not want to do that, but once we got to the "Go Greek" table part of me was excited. I kind of always wanted to be a sorority girl but sometimes on movies you see this "image" of a sorority girl and I am defiantly not that image. My mom was talking to some girls while I just looked at the pictures and saw how much fun the girls looked like they were having, so I put my name down and looked horrified when I gave it to them.
"Not so bad, huh?" My mother asked.
I smiled and we kept walking. Luckily for me that was the end of orientation which meant we would be driving home and I had all summer to debate over joining or not, or so I thought.
A month later I got an email saying I need to verify my information and if I did want to rush I need to put my name down. Well not everyone gets in. NOT EVERYONE GETS IN. When I rushed there was over 200 girls rushing with me and I didn't know anyone there. Only about half or less would make it. I decided maybe I should rush this is a great way start college and maybe make a few friends along the way.
So here goes the whole moving into the dorm and having to talk to the rho gammas about rush week. Well the first night I signed in and took a seat, remember the 200+ girls? Yeah all different girls from so many different places, with so many different accents, and all wanting a specific sorority. The President of all the sororities went up there to talk and repeated and stressed "You may not get the sorority you want, some of us didn't but we are still here and you can always rush again." How frightening, 1) I might not even get picked at all or 2) I may not like the sorority I get picked. After that she explained everything that was going to happen that week. Dress up, dress up, dress up. Talk about yourself and don't leave anything out, you are trying to make an impression but at the same time stay true to yourself.
So the first night we went to visit all 4 of the sororities, now my campus is not as big as others, but for a freshman and it is your first week and YOUR IN HEELS, it is pretty big, especially since we did walk all over campus. We went to see the girls in each sorority as well as see their units (Since ours do not have their own houses). The next night was the sororities that asked you to come back. I had gotten invited back to two, which made me really happy. Why? Remember how shy I am? Well I made a great impression being myself that two sororities liked me. That made me feel very happy and once it was all done I ran to my dorm to call my mom and told her.
The third night was the last night and that was the night only 1-2 will chose you and it was the most serious night because these girls could possibly be your sisters. The only problem was if you were invited back it does not automatically mean you get in that sorority. I got invited back to one last sorority. I went there and bonded with some of the girls there and felt at peace, but they were the new sorority so there was not that many girls compared to the other. I went back to my dorm and that night I just kept repeating their chants over and over so part of me felt like that was what was suppose to happen in my life.
The next morning if you got a call that means you did not get a bid and I heard that some people got calls. I on the other hand did not know that was a thing and thought even if you didn't get a bid you just go there and they tell you at the door, the call was a smarter idea. Like I said I didn't know about the call, so when I got to the meeting area some girls were discussing how some of their best friends got the calls and I asked what calls. I rushed towards my phone and scrolled through the calls and did not find an unknown number so I was relieved. I got a bid.
My line was up next. It was my turn. I get a bid. I called my mom right before, "Mom should I do this or not?"
"Yes, of course!" She said.
I smiled took the envelope and opened it. I got in a sorority.
Me! The weird, quiet, shy, awkward girl got a bid. After that we had to guess which sororities the rho gammas were in. Once that was all done we ran to our new home, our new family, with our new sisters.
Rushing was stressful, having to dress up all week and figuring out how to schedule class and homework around walking around viewing sororities, but in the end it was all worth it. I am a new and proud member of Alpha Sigma Alpha and I would not trade my experience or my sisters in for the world. They have all become a part of me and if I did not join I would be a bum laying on my bed watching netflix on day.
If any of you reading this debates on rushing, DO IT! You will meet friends whether you get in or not but most importantly if you do get in then you will become sisters for life and that's the best thing, and so much more, I have so far gotten out of my sorority. 
"Give a girl the right pair of shoes, and she can conquer the world. Give a girl a bid, and she will not have to do it alone."

What's Important in LIfe

Think about what's important in life is a big question that when you ask a group of people not one of those people's answers will be the exact same. Importance is something that has to having meaning and some things are more important than other things to people. For me it is happiness. To someone else it may be love or money or knowledge.
To me though I think happiness is a broad term that could fit within all those ideas; love, money, knowledge... Another thing that is Important is faith and belief. Not just in God which is a good thing to do because as someone who grew up in a religious home God is something that is important in life but also faith/belief in oneself.
Now a days teens, or everyone, have a hard time being successful. Not only that but believing in themselves. We grew up in a different time period than our parents. We grew up with technology that lets us have to ways to get answers to the homework but also a struggle to pay attention in class because of the wide range of social media the internet now has. Our parents don't understand the struggles we face now because we are teenagers and are so dramatic right? We broke up with our first crush and that's the end we will never find someone again. We made a F the test we thought we did amazing on that's it I am not going to College.
Because teens are so dramatic and just assume the worse rather than thinking thinks out from all different directions and thinking rationally we just give up on ourselves and stop caring. That is why we go for mediocrity because we just doubt ourselves and don't put faith in ourselves. That needs to change.
The important things in life to me is having faith in myself. It should always be like that and it should not change. I am not saying be a confident person who is rude because it is okay to be confident, especially in this world, but not rude. To becoming faithful and essentially happy with yourself you have to surround yourself with people that build you up. The people who are your "friends" or people who you hang out with are what you essentially are going to be. If you surround yourself with slackers who don't want to do anything then that is what you will start to do. If you surround yourself with people who challenge themselves and push you to do your best then you will become better than what you ever imagined.
Last year I was surrounded by people who were smarted than me, which is not unusual, and when it came time to check our GPA they always got 4.0's and higher. I always got a 3.5-3.8 and was always ashamed to have that grade because I felt like a dumb person. This year I have a 4.0 which I am extremely proud of. Since I surrounded myself with people who were smarter than me it pushed me to become smarter and push myself to becoming better than what I was.
"Work Hard, Dream Big."
"No one is in charge of your happiness but you."

When did Skinny become fashionable?

Dear, Girls, or perhaps even guys,
I saw this post on tumblr that had a billboard that asked the question: "When did skinny become fashionable?"
It made me think. When did the idea that if you are skinny you are in fashion? I am not degrading people who are skinny, I know that skinny is an awesome feeling because you worked hard to get there or you just have metabolism so nothing it wrong with being skinny. But to me, there is a problem with being too skinny, the people who are not comfortable with their own body so they refuse to eat and so they eat and throw it up or they don't eat at all and they are as skinny as their bones because that's all that is consuming them now, not much skin there anymore. That is what I'm talking about, when did that become fashionable? When did we, as a society, say "Girls if you look like that, then you are beautiful and guys will like you." When did that happen?
I currently am a freshman in College and have you ever heard the saying "College 15?" Yeah I have. And to be honest, I am terrified. I am scared that I will eat to much that I will not recognize my body, so I hardly eat. It's hard because I stock up on food every month and just see the delicious food staring at me but instead of eating I will do other things- some good, some bad; for example, I will watch netflix (that has consumed my life), or I will do homework, or I will take a walk around campus. Sometimes though I do cave in, but I now understand that's good. Not necessarily as many times a day as I want, but it is okay to eat that second cookies sometimes or eat the ice cream. It is okay.
Fashion is not skinny but rather what you make of it. Earlier this month my friend and I went to the mall to go get a dress for a meeting. My friend is a couple sizes smaller than me so when we tried clothes on it was hard for me to be happy with what I was wearing because like most girls, "It didn't fit my curves", or "I look fat", or the popular one for me, "My boobs look to big in it". When we went to the meeting later on that day, I wore that dress. The other girls at the meeting looked at me and said "That dress is so cute on you", and other compliments as well. They didn't notice that my curves didn't look good in the dress, or the fact that my boobs looked huge in it compared to other dresses, they saw me and a dress. They saw a girl who is trying to fit societies idea of fashion and to them I looked pretty and I felt it because I was dressed up like I was suppose to be and I was curved and all.
To whoever is reading this; skinny, curvy or not- you are beautiful. You are the way God wanted you to be, if you want to be skinner then there are gyms everywhere but if you like what you see (which you should and it's hard but just try) then embrace everything about yourself. If you are shopping and you find yourself looking at a shirt, dress, or pants or any other item that looks appealing to you get it! Who cares if it's not a size S or M you find it awesome and that's what the makers want you to think because they thought it was awesome too. I have trouble with that, I see outfits and think "No it would be better on a girl smaller." You are the girl, or guy, smaller. You can fit in it just as much as I can and the difference between the smaller people and you… is confidence. Be proud of your weight and that you are embracing it with an awesome fashion sense and you don't care who is watching. One of my favorite quotes it "Every day is a fashion show, and the world is your runway." I for one will start to embrace my body, slowly of course, and I will try to become confident because fashion is my way of speaking sometimes and I want people to know I am confident and I have a good sense of style in whatever I am wearing.
"People will stare. Make it worth their while." -Harry Winston
"Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak."- Rachel Zoe

Dear High School Seniors

Dear High School Seniors,
Step back. Take a minute. Breath. Enjoy this. Enjoy these last'; last first day, last first game, last homecoming, last game, last homecoming dance, last prom... Just breathe and enjoy your view.
Once you get to College things will change. You aren't the same person you were when you stepped foot in high school let alone the same person you will be when you step out. Enjoy every moment you have. Because in a few months you will walk the stage, and it will be of the best moments of your lives, believe me, but it will be quick and everything you rushed through seemed pointless. So don't rush, slow down and absorb everything. Moments with your siblings, your parents, your family, your friends, everything. After a couple months you will soon be forced to pack memories up and take them to a strange place where you don't know people and are forced to make new memories and new friends. You won't have that same group of friends because it feels like they are half way across the world, and your only way of communication to your family is phone calls and Facebook because you will be so busy.
Dear high school senior, enjoy everything. When you are thinking of staying home and studying or going to watch that movie with your best friends; chose the ladder of the two. You will still have that grade, but you won't have that time to be with friends or family.
College is here. College is waiting for you and it's exciting and fun, but wait. Take your time and be a kid as long as you can because you only have now, and once you get to graduation and see the people you have known for so long in caps and gowns and realize you will soon leave them, you will wonder where the time has gone, so please take your time and enjoy your last's because once you get into College you'll be happy you enjoyed the little moments with people who mattered.
"Today is your day. You're off to great places. You're off and away!" Dr. Seuss